Dear Kara,

My friend told me when she gives her boyfriend head it take him under 5 minutes to get off. It always takes me at least a half hour! What am I doing wrong?

–BJ challenged

Dear Challenged,

Well unless I come and watch you in action I can’t really tell you for sure. Since that would be undoubtedly creepy, I’ll give you a few of the options.

For one, it may not be you. Your guy may be penile challenged, yay! Some guys just don’t get all that excited about a blow job. I have a friend who has NEVER gotten off from one, and he’s been given plenty. If this is the case, just stop now and find another way, because quite frankly, it would be annoying. Having a girl bobbing around for hours, and only ending up with a giant hickey on his dick to show for it does not sound like a good time.

Now, this solution may be the best for your self-esteem, but its not very probable. He may be holding it in so you’ll go longer. Still not very likely.

However, if this is what’s goin’ on tell him to cut it out or you will. The issue may have to deal with how much action he gets, the more deprived he is, the faster he’ll blow his load. More promising, but not the most obvious answer.

So here it is. Sucking a guy off just isn’t a strong suit for some girls. It’s a shocker, I know! You could try varying your routine, and when he likes something stick with it. Other than that I can’t help you too much, because I’d rather not watch you two in action. So: Yeah, guys like different things yada, yada, but if you can’t get the job done in ten minutes or less, don’t bother.

Kara can help you, too! sdsucollegian@yahoo.com.

Dear Kara,

What is “the clap”?

-Clueless

Dear Clueless,

I’m going to assume you are referring to an STD, in which case the answer to your question is gonorrhea. Gonorrhea is one of the more well known STDs, but if your significant other has been talking about it a lot lately, I would suggest steering clear of his or her genitals. The clap is curable but is often difficult to detect, especially in women. Basically, if it burns when you pee and/or you have anything odd oozing out of your nether regions, it’s a bad sign. As with any STD you want to be treated as soon as possible. If you just let it run rampant it will take over your body and then eventually the world, naturally. Well, maybe not, but it causes infertility, urethral scarring (doesn’t that sound fun!?!), miscarriage, etc. Of course, if the infection spreads to your blood or heart, it kind of does take over your body. So if you have a leaky faucet, get it checked out, unless, of course, you like meningitis and not being able to pee.

Sorry, Matt and Kara are not accepting any more questions this year!

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Dear Kara,

I work on campus and have always thought of myself as a heterosexual male, but recently I find myself attracted to a male coworker. Jason (not his real name) is like no man I have ever met. I find him sexually and mentally stimulating. When I’m making love to my girlfriend, I find myself thinking of Jason. Am I crazy? Do you think I could be gay? Or am I just some freak?

–Confused

Dear Confused,

Whoa, tiger! I highly doubt that you are crazy, or a freak. However, from what you tell me, I wouldn’t rule out the gay factor. They say that everyone thinks about being gay at some point in their lives, but I don’t think that usually includes thinking about a person of the same sex while making love to your girlfriend. I think your first step should be to figure out your true feelings for your girlfriend. Something just doesn’t sound right there. About being gay, you are the only one who can really answer that for yourself, sorry. When trying to figure things out, keep mind that just because you like Jason doesn’t mean you would be able to be with him if you decide you want to. Is Jason the only guy you could ever see yourself being with? If so, Jason might just be a really cool guy.

In the end, don’t just focus on the question of being gay, be sure to evaluate your relationship with your girlfriend because even if you decide you like women, she may not be the girl for you. And don’t be so hard on yourself; being gay isn’t the end of the world.

Kara will take your sex questions at sdsucollegian@yahoo.com.

Hello all! My name is Kara, and I’m so excited to be one of your new sexperts! I figured the only one you have can’t be a guy, right? After all, they need most of the help. Okay, sorry guys. That was a joke (kinda). Anyways, I’m here to help with all your romantic queries. I’m not a professor or a doctor, so you should understand what I’m talking about easily.

My goal is to answer as many questions, and help as many people as possible, without having to answer the same question a thousand times.

Where did I gain all this wisdom? Well, I really have to credit the guys I have dated – good or bad – and all of the girlfriends I’ve had to counsel, because some people just don’t seem to get the whole relationship thing. Of course, sometimes I don’t have all the answers. In that case, I will go out and find it for you! Please send me questions so I can do something with all of this sexpertly advice! Now don’t be shy, I know everyone has something to ask, and it’s confidential so, no worries!

Dear Kara,

I am a virgin. Can I still get herpes?

- Confused

Dear Confused,

YES yes yes! Did I say yes already? This is a very common question among young adults, and that is not a good sign! There are two forms of herpes, Simplex A and Simplex B. Simplex A are those nasty cold sores some people get around their mouths. That sore should be like a big warning sign that says “do not kiss me or drink out of my glass.” Just resist the urge until that thing is gone, which shouldn’t be too hard as it’s not the most attractive thing in the world.

Now, Simplex B is below the belt. Those sores you have to touch in order to transfer. Since I don’t know exactly what your virgin status entails, I can’t say it’s not possible. Do you have to have sex? No. Any fondling is very dangerous in this case. Also, this is very important, if your bed buddy has a cold sore don’t let him/her go down on you! It CAN be contracted both ways! Remember, herpes is NOT curable, so those five minutes will last a long time.

Be careful,

Kara

Send your questions to Kara or Matt at sdsucollegian@yahoo.com.

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